Every couple has one thing that they seem to fight (or at least disagree) about over and over again. For some, couples, the big struggle is how to raise the children, how to spend their money or how much time they should spend together. One of the biggest problems that couples experience is with sex or intimacy.
The way most people think, men only think about sex. I'm sure you've heard the bogus statistic that the average man thinks about sex every ten seconds, and these types of things that get passed on just seem to set the stereotype in. On the other hand, it often is said that women want to talk about love and intimacy, but could live without sex. This stereotype is reinforced by soap operas and romance novels which are marketed at women, and have a whole lot of romance, but usually aren't filled with a bunch of sex.
But when the bedroom doors close or people aren't looking, you'll find that these stereotypes are shattered. There are so many men that want to talk about their feelings and intimacy, while women just want passionate sex or even sex with no strings attached. Repeating stereotypes is not what we want to do here, because for every example you give, you can definitely find ten people who break the mold.
Let's forget about stereotypes and work to help out our relationship instead. You don't have to be an expert in marriage or sex to understand enough to help your relationship.
What are Sex and Intimacy?
Maybe we need to define intimacy and sex before we go any further. What is sex and what it intimacy? Some people say that sex and intimacy aren't the same, that they have the different definitions; other might say that they are the same. If you would ask your partner this question would they answer it the same way as you would? Is kissing defined as sex, intimacy or other? What about talking dirty to each other, masturbation and having sex?
If you've know what your marriage blueprint is, you may realize that this affects your feelings on the subject more than whether you are a man or woman. It doesn't matter if you are a woman or a man, if you are a 'wild thing', you want your sexual freedom, and sex and intimacy could be described as one. You love getting naked, and don't want any rules or talking with your partner.
If both partners in the relationship are wild things, the relationship will go smoothly as far as sex and intimacy go. But what happens if you and your partner have different ideas on what sex and intimacy involve. Can a relationship between a carefree wild thing and a pilgrim (who are often guided by their religious beliefs) work?
How does your religion shape your beliefs on sex, passion and romance? If you grew up thinking that sex was dirty or something that should only be done to create children, you probably can find beliefs of that in your relationships today. If, while growing up, you rebelled against that belief, you could be someone who is very open sexually. But if you just let that belief sink in, you may still be a bit more conservative when it comes to sex.
Should you change the way that you think to please your partner? Look at this example of a couple, and tell me what you think:
Mike wants his wife, Andrea to try to have anal sex with him. Andrea doesn't like the idea, because she thinks that it is dirty and humiliating. She also adds that there aren't any reasons to do it, and that it wouldn't add anything to the relationship. What do you think? Can this add intimacy to their relationship, or will Mike harm his relationship by trying to change it.
What should couples do if they are disagreeing with their partner with their level of sex or intimacy? If one person wants to bring in an additional person for one wild night once in a while and the other is totally adamant about it, what can you do?
There is a reason that most lingerie features lace, it is seen as extremely sexy by women as well as men. In the lingerie industry the fabric is used in many different styles and designs and it doesn't matter if the piece is all lace or just has lace accents it is sexy all the same. Those who are lovers of lace might have a hard time finding lace lingerie that is sexy and attractive and yet still soft and non scratchy too. If you choose lace that comes from synthetic fibers it will not feel nearly as good as lace from silk. Silk is the only fiber of which lace is made that is not scratchy. Lace from synthetic fibers may be cheaper but you will pay for it by having your delicate areas become tender due to the irritation from this type of material.
It pays to be choosy when you are looking for these lacy lingerie garments so that they are sexy but yet comfortable and practical so that it isn't chafing you and rubbing you.
If you can't afford true silk lace but can't afford it try to go with other options like satin sheer or nude. What this allows you to do is keep your skin against the softer material but still enjoy the lace and there are hundreds of different types of lingerie that feature lace without having it chafing your tender areas. Some of the better choices include chemises and negligees that have satin at the bust area and lace straps. You can also find teddies that have sheer or lace on the sides of the bust. If all types of lace lingerie tends to irritate your skin then try to find lingerie made of silk or satin that features silk or satin with trim of lace at the neck area or on the legs.
One thing you can do if you have lace lingerie that you really want to wear but it irritates you, try this little trick. Fill a sink with hot water and hot water and a lot of fabric softener and leave it soaking for twenty four hours. You may want to keep refilling the water so that it stays as hot possible for the best results. This process will make the fabric limber and take out the itchy and scratchy feeling that most lace has. You may have to repeat this process a couple of times per week before the lace is soft enough.
For most, lace is one of the most desirable features in lingerie but for a lot of people it can be very irritating if it is worn for long periods of time. If you simply must have lace, spend the money and go with silk. This will give you the best in comfort and control plus it will give you a sexy feeling and you will be able to wear it for a long time.
Well, you want to know how to get a girlfriend and my assumption is that you don't want to have to approach dozens of women with the hopes that one of them will decide to say yes and go out on a date with you. Most guys have a hard time attracting a girlfriend and when they DO find one, they usually end up getting a little too attached to her and then they wonder why things are not flowing smoothly.
If you want to know how to get a girlfriend, then you cannot look for some theories on what attracts women. Rather, you have to take a look at things that have been proven to attract women and will continue to do so. Otherwise, you will end up running into dead end after dead end trying to figure out how to get a girlfriend.
Here are 4 keys to female attraction that should help you discover how to get a girlfriend:
1. You must be able to really figure out what kind of woman is right for you. Truth is, you could end up attracting a woman that is totally wrong for you and what would be the point in that? After all, I would think that your reasons for wanting to get a girlfriend have more to do with attracting a female that suits you, rather than just having any woman act as your girlfriend.
2. If you want to get a girlfriend, you have to look in new places. Having trouble meeting new women? Well, the quickest remedy for this is to get out and start looking at new places where you can meet new women. Don't let yourself become a creature of comfort where you are unable to get out of a rut and start finding new women. You don't have to just look in the usual places to attract a girlfriend.
3. Flirt with women wherever you go. You want to become comfortable and skilled when it comes to flirting with women and the more experience that you can muster up, the better off you will end up being. To get a girlfriend, you need to be the kind of guy that can flirt with just about any woman and at any time. This is not something to be taken lightly, as it can really broaden your horizons when it comes to attracting a girlfriend.
4. Make yourself get out and approach women, no matter what. This could be seen as a little bit of a pep talk, but you need to push yourself when it comes to approaching women. Face it, the way that the world works, the man is the one that needs to be able to make the approach.
These 4 tips can really help you out with getting a girlfriend, but the key is that you need to get off of your rear and do something, anything to attract a girlfriend. Sitting around and waiting for things to be different is not going to make it happen.